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The Private Jet Consulting Model™ (Couples Edition)
In the Private Jet Consulting Model, a couple is understood through two private jets, not one.
Each partner brings their own aircraft, their own way of thinking, deciding, and reacting under pressure.
The work is not about merging minds.
It is about understanding how two separate systems interact in the air.
1. Two Partners. Two Private Jets.
Each partner operates one private jet.
Inside every jet are:
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One Pilot
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Two Co-Pilots
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One Emergency Brake
These are not labels or identities.
They are functional roles that explain how the mind operates in different situations.
2. The Pilot
The Pilot is the strongest driver in that person’s mind.
It takes control during important decisions, conflict, or uncertainty.
It often feels automatic and difficult to override.
The Pilot is not good or bad.
It is simply the part that flies first.
3. The Co-Pilots
Each jet has two Co-Pilots.
They support the Pilot by:
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Offering balance
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Questioning decisions
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Softening reactions
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Providing alternate perspectives
In healthy situations, the Co-Pilots help keep the flight smooth.
Under stress, they may get ignored or overridden.
4. The Emergency Brake
When stress becomes overwhelming, the Emergency Brake activates.
This is a protective response used when the system feels unsafe.
It can show up as:
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Withdrawal
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Over-control
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Over-explaining
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Emotional flooding
The Emergency Brake is not a flaw.
It is a last-resort safety mechanism.
5. How Conflict Actually Happens
Conflict happens when:
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One jet tries to control the other
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One Pilot ignores the other Pilot
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Emergency Brakes activate in both jets at the same time
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Co-Pilots are silenced under pressure
At that point, the issue is no longer the topic.
It is a flight-control problem.
6. What the Model Changes
Instead of saying:
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“You are the problem”
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“You always react this way”
Couples learn to say:
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“Your Pilot is clashing with mine”
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“Both Emergency Brakes are on”
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“The Co-Pilots are not being heard”
The conflict becomes mechanical, not personal.
7. A Shared Language Between Two Jets
Over time, couples learn:
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Which Pilot shows up in which situations
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What triggers the Emergency Brake
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How to slow things down before impact
Two separate jets do not need to collide.
They need air-traffic awareness.
In Simple Words
The Private Jet Consulting Model helps couples:
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Understand their own mental flight system
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Understand their partner’s system
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Reduce blame and emotional overload
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Navigate conflict without crashing
It is not about changing who flies the jet.
It is about learning how two jets fly safely together.
The conflict resolution approach uses the Private Jet Consulting Model™. From eight possible markers, three key words are selected for each individual based on recurring patterns, using a private plane analogy to support more intentional responses during conflicts.
Only three (Pilots/Co-Pilots) apply to each individual.